So, “Hello, July, won’t you stick around a while?”
As a “yet to be published” author, rejection is on my mind quite a bit — especially now that six agents are reading one of my manuscripts and three agents are reading another. Logic tells me that all nine will NOT email with offers of representation. Rejection is a guarantee, in some form or another.
With that theme in mind, I want to share an article from Psychology Today that explores 10 ways that rejections affect us psychologically. (Read the article.)
These three are particularly troubling:
- Rejection created surges of anger and aggression.
- Rejection sends on a mission to seek and destroy our self-esteem.
- Rejection does not respond to reason.
Let's remember that the literary agents (readers, friends, etc.) who reject our work aren't the enemy. Often, it's just our dumb old brains.