1. You can’t do that.
2. You’re not good enough.
3. People will laugh/talk/judge.
I’ve completed The Artist’s Way once – and have revisited several chapters since then. And you know what? I’m still listening to those destructive voices. It takes almost a daily meditative practice to remind myself that those are old scripts that have no place in my life anymore.
Last night I had dinner with a friend of mine whom I consider brilliant, bold and powerful – a pillar of self-confidence. We began talking about how we limit our possibilities. Yes, even she struggles to silence the voices.
She brought up a common and destructive phrase that all of us have used from to time. It’s so generic and open-ended that it’s easy to call up on a moment’s notice.
“Who am I to think I can__________?” [fill in the blank]
- Who am I to think I can be a published author?
- Who am I to think I can learn to play the bass guitar?
- Who am I to think I can open a successful art gallery?
- Who am I to think I can influence my city council/state senator/Congressman/President?
- Who am I to think I can ask for what I need in this moment?
My friend and I agreed to form a *buddy system* so that when either of us lapses into this thinking, the other can kick her butt. But since most of this destructive thinking is internal, we may be on our own to stop this futile exercise. Maybe we can all just STOP and BREATHE…and then write a different script.
What have you told yourself was impossible but you made it happen anyway? Or what have you vowed to do for yourself in the future?